So, always remember, you can have it all -- you just may not have it all at once. Choose your priorities with each day, and don't feel guilty about neglecting other areas of your life. If you spend the day playing dress-up with your babies, and at 5:00 realize the house is in shambles and you forgot to take something out for dinner, don't sweat it! Order a pizza and clean it up another day. Or, if you need to spend an afternoon catching up on some work, don't feel guilty about recruiting Dora and The Backyardigans to babysit the wee ones for a while. They won't remember that day anyways...they'll remember the day you played dress-up all day!
I have been having one of those weeks. One of those weeks where I am completely overwhelmed with my kids, and feel like a failure of a mom because they're unhappy, and we've been butting heads for days, and I should know how to deal with it. One of those weeks where no matter how hard I try to keep a tidy house, the little ones manage to destroy it all before I can blink, and when my husband comes home I feel like a failure because it literally looks like I did nothing all day. One of those weeks where I just want to crawl into bed, and wake up next spring.
But...I got through it. It's Friday, the weekend is here, and I am finally feeling in better spirits. Cheyna is gone to a youth retreat with a wonderful new friend she made at school (A boy!), and I am happy to see her happy. Trevor and I snuck out with the little ones for some yummy seafood tonight, and it was perfect - no fighting, no temper tantrums, no meltdowns, just fun. We then came home to a relaxed evening of bubble baths, bedtime stories, and snuggles with the littles. Now they're all tucked in bed (Daddy included!) and I am forgiving myself for losing my temper this week, for not keeping the house clean, and for not being super mom.. No one ever said motherhood was easy. Some days are challenging, some days are frustrating, and some days are just downright disastrous. But, we make it through, and we move on, looking ahead, and knowing that these years are short - too short. Enjoy every second that you can, because in the grand scheme of things, the bad days won't matter...the happy memories will be the ones that last.
Happy Friday, friends.